You don’t like me? Vol 33
There are people who don’t like me. I know that’s hard to believe, but it’s true. They may not like me for a variety of reasons. Maybe they don’t like my looks, maybe it’s my attitude, my jokes, maybe I kicked their cat one time….who knows?
So…do I get to not like them back? Maybe be unloving? Do I get to un-friend them and block them from my online social world with a “There…that’ll teach ’em!” Well…I guess that’s an option. But sheesh!
I’m living this out in my world right now and what I’m finding is that I seem to be more interested in righting a perceived wrong than I am in loving despite it. On my own I just want to “fix it.” I want to explain myself. I want to make this awkwardness go away. Surely if I’m allowed to pack enough words into a conversation…I can overwhelm them with reason that I’m worth liking. That this misunderstanding was a mistake. That I’m worth re-friending. C’mon!
Wow…as I process this whole thing I surprise myself yet again at how fragile I am sometimes…even as a believer. I’m surprised at just how thin my skin has become and how important it is to me for people to “like” me. I have tortured myself about “what I could have done for this to happen” and really set out to do the research to try and fix it. It didn’t work…it probably won’t work.
Here’s where I am today. I’ve decided that as much as it depends on me I’m going to live at peace with all men. That means that I apologize when I’ve offended someone. I let stuff go if I’ve been offended. I freely forgive as I have been forgiven. I love even if I’m not loved back. And I enjoy and celebrate the relationships I have with all people. Those who do love and like me as well as those who don’t.
Live in love my friends. Don’t be easily offended. Forgive easily. Quit holding grudges. Don’t sweat the small stuff…cause it’s almost all small stuff in light of what Christ endured for us.
“But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you.” (KJV)
1 Peter 3:9
“Don’t repay evil for evil. Don’t retaliate with insults when people insult you. Instead, pay them back with a blessing. That is what God has called you to do, and he will bless you for it.” (NLT)
1 Thessalonians 5:15 “See that none render evil for evil unto any man; but ever follow that which is good, both among yourselves, and to all men.” (KJV)
2 Peter 3:9 “The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance.” (ESV)