Life from the rear-view mirror

In honor preferring one another… really? Vol 34

April 21, 2013 | Comment

In honor preferring one another. I’ve heard that applied a lot to marriage and the way that a husband should treat his wife…but it’s a very narrow definition. I believe Paul meant this as a global admonition to put others before ourselves.

I don’t know about your family…but the concept has been falling on deaf ears in mine. If somebody didn’t leave a dirty dish out…far be it from them to pick it up and help the brother or sister who left it there. It is difficult enough to train them to pick up after themselves without a LOT of asking, pleading leaving notes, threatening and raw discipline. I was no better when I was a kid. I could not see the point. You want me to pick up something I didn’t leave out? How is that fair? How is that right? Why doesn’t Brian have to pick it up…he doesn’t pick up my stuff (and he didn’t either)

Sometimes “in honor loving one another” must go beyond reason and what we might consider to be fair because that’s what love does. It sacrifices for the good of another on purpose. I’m convinced that you can’t teach the “preferring one another” part. That is God instilled… and for the believer. You can show it action, demonstrate it…but it’s difficult to get it instilled because it’s counter-culture. The world continues to tell us that we’re the reason…everything revolves around us. But God shows us that the way up is down…that we should desire to be servants and let him raise us up if he chooses. That’s a mature concept. And one that not even mature believers do well with sometimes. But it’s the way to joy and contentment. It allows us to be in a position to be be used…to show off God and his character. It is good for us to “in honor love one another” and like all things good for us, it is often a difficult pill to swallow…but the antidote to pride, selfishness and discontent.

So let’s happily swallow that pill and let God work on us and in us…even in our families today.


Philippians 2:13 For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what
pleases him.

Romans 12:10 Show family affection to one another with brotherly love. Outdo one another in showing honor.


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