Heartlight… Vol 29
I’m sitting in the hospital with my mom while dad has an angiogram. This time it’s not simply for observation…but rather confirmation for heart surgery in early May to repair or replace a leaky valve. Then cataract surgery after that.
My parents have reached their 80’s in pretty good health considering. There’s still a twinkle in their eyes and my dad is still my “go to” person for anything mechanical (just as long as he has paper to draw on…)
As our family has grown, gotten busy and not able to travel together as much, mom and dad have made the 90 mile drive from their home to ours every couple of months or so to be involved in the kids lives (and to see Rusty…)
But in the last year or so they have finally started to slow up. Dad can only work on a project for an hour or so before he tires, and mom’s knees and back keep her limping and in need of a walker. These days they both take more naps…as do I :))
But despite the health challenges, dad still serves and teaches at church and mom still hosts missionaries, cooks for the two of them and gets out with her friends regularly. They are enjoying life, their friends, their family and most of all, each other. They celebrated their 60th anniversary a few years back. That’s quite a feat these days…and quite a goal to shoot for. (Let’s see 60 years with Kathy would put me at 118…nope…gotta choose another goal…)
I don’t know how many years God will give them. I’m hoping for many more. But whenever the Lord chooses to bring them home, they will be greatly missed. They have been a beacon of faith and love and commitment that has shone some eighty plus years that fewer and fewer families get to see these days. It’s a legacy that I can only hope to leave for my children. Mom and dad have loved and sacrified for Brian and me in ways we will probably never know. They have prayed for us…admonished us…helped us and shown us what Godly parents are supposed to look like.
Occasionally my kids will have to be someplace else when Grandma and Grandpa are at the house. To them it’s no big deal, Grandma and Grandpa don’t always have exciting things to talk about…and they don’t know the new music…sometimes it’s hard to bridge a 60-70 year gap. I understand that…but I have a better sense these days that my kids need to love them now…in any way they can…because my mom and dad will be going home before too long. And my kids have much to learn from them…heck…I still have a lot to learn from them. “Love them while you can” takes on a whole new meaning with older parents. They have always been there…but they won’t be forever.
Mom…Dad…I can’t tell you how much I love and appreciate all you’ve done for me and the way you have loved me in spite of me and my antics. If I had the chance to choose my parents…I would have chosen you!
Ephesians 6:1-4 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.